We decided not to go with the house- in the end it was just to small. There were lots of red flags and our guts were telling us no but we plugged along hoping it would work out. On the very last day we could walk away with out loosing any money we decided it just wasn't the house for us.
We continue our journey- I hope the next house we find I am totally in love with it and I don't have such mixed feelings. This has been a stressful month.
I guess a few days to relax and get over the cold I have and then back to the drawing board.